Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger?
So, last night in CPE group my verbatim got completely shredded and I got to see that I had in fact been waaay directive with a patient in a way that I hate to look at. And got to see that based on extremely DIRECT feedback. Have you ever felt overwhelmed by two entirely separate processes, so overwhelmed that you can't speak? That's me:
Process 1: I heard the worst and I survived.
Process 2: God, this is really, REALLY awful.
Last night I had to stay with process 1 in order to get the information being offered. For the rest of the night and now this morning, I'm stuck in process 2. This really, really hurts, to see that I would 'take over' for the patient in this way. It contradicts a value at the core of my understanding of pastoral care. And now I don't trust myself even one whit. Feels like being run over by a semi. AND, this afternoon, I am to be observed by my clinical supervisor, a man whose personal style is on a different planet from mine.
On the other hand, there is one more piece of info: the patient survived, and was even seemingly pretty happy with the encounter, awful though it was.
Any extra prayers, send 'em my way. Or maybe the patients' way!!!
Damn.
Process 1: I heard the worst and I survived.
Process 2: God, this is really, REALLY awful.
Last night I had to stay with process 1 in order to get the information being offered. For the rest of the night and now this morning, I'm stuck in process 2. This really, really hurts, to see that I would 'take over' for the patient in this way. It contradicts a value at the core of my understanding of pastoral care. And now I don't trust myself even one whit. Feels like being run over by a semi. AND, this afternoon, I am to be observed by my clinical supervisor, a man whose personal style is on a different planet from mine.
On the other hand, there is one more piece of info: the patient survived, and was even seemingly pretty happy with the encounter, awful though it was.
Any extra prayers, send 'em my way. Or maybe the patients' way!!!
Damn.